Category: Fatherhood

Fatherhood is one of the most rewarding roles a man can have. The bond between father and child is one of the strongest relationships, and active involvement from fathers greatly impacts their children’s development and self-esteem. While being a good father requires time and effort, the rewards are invaluable.

How Dads Can Help with Postpartum Depression

Postpartum Depression is a mental illness that affects roughly 1 in 5 pregnant women. It can be challenging for mothers to recognize and handle on their own, but dads can play an important role too!

According to the CDC, postpartum depression affects an estimated 10-20% of new mothers during their first year after giving birth. This might be because moms experience a massive change in hormones and moods that can interfere with bonding with their babies.

This post will offer some tips on how dads can support moms during this time and answer some common questions about what PPD looks like.

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Signs of Postpartum Depression

A postpartum depression diagnosis requires that a mother experiences at least five of the following symptoms for two weeks or longer.

-Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, hopelessness, guilt, or shame that’s more than just the baby blues (feeling down after having your child).

-Crying episodes that are out of the norm.

-Being distant with family and friends

-A feeling of disconnection or not being able to love the baby like you thought you would.

-Not enjoying anything (not even things that were enjoyable before).

-Anxiety, agitation, trouble sleeping, or other unusual behaviors.

Offer Emotional Support

Your wife is likely feeling really down. Your support and positive encouragement will go a long way to help her through postpartum depression.

Make time for one on one conversations, give hugs, offer compliments when she does anything around the house (even if it’s just folding laundry), tell jokes or funny stories that might put a smile on her face.

It’s important to try and be understanding, non-judgmental, and supportive. Try to talk about some of the emotions they might be feeling and reassure them that it is normal.

Encourage Rest and Exercise

Postpartum depression can make new mothers feel like they can’t do anything right. Offer to hold the baby, so she can sleep or take a nap, and don’t pressure her to do things too much for her (like taking on all of the housework). Ask what you can do to help around the house while she rests.

She would also benefit from light exercise, even if it’s just going for a walk. It may feel impossible to have the energy, but postpartum depression is much worse without sleep and exercise—and both can help with her anxiety, too!

Give Her Space

Sometimes she may want to be alone, and that’s okay. Her hormones have changed, and she’s going through a big life change. She needs space so she can recover from childbirth and breastfeed the baby.

However, it’s important to encourage her to keep up with her medication and seek out mental health professionals who can provide support and talk through her feelings.

Many postpartum depression sufferers have said that their husbands’ support helped them manage postpartum symptoms better than they would have been able to on their own.

Final Thoughts

We all want to help our loved ones, which is why it’s so important for new dads to know the signs of postpartum depression and be able to provide emotional support. You might not think you can do much but your love will go a long way in helping her get through the tough days ahead.

Do you know anyone who has experienced postpartum depression?

January 5, 2022
Adopting A Dog: Should You Change Their Given Name?

After much contemplation and soul searching, you’ve decided it’s time to adopt. After researching the various humane societies in your area online, you’ve determined you want to adopt your pup from a high-kill shelter. You won’t just be saving their life; they’ll forever change yours.

RENAMING A DOG AFTER ADOPTION

Good v. Bad Dog Names

You probably noticed in your search for your doggie companion that a lot of the names shelters seem to come up with are a little, well…a little silly. Names like ‘Cookie’ and ‘Shamrock’ seem like a cop-out.

It certainly can’t be easy getting unnamed new dogs and cats into the shelter every day, but does that mean volunteers should name a Doberman mix Goofy? It just doesn’t work.

Some shelter dogs have great names, like the Shih Tzu Poodle mix Wookie; the name just fits him. Unfortunately, not all dogs can land those fun and fitting namesakes. When you adopt your hairy baby, you might not like the name that comes along with them.

What Does a Name Mean to Your Dog?

Names are very personal, and no one gets to choose their own; they’re given to us, weird spellings and all. Understanding this, we apply how we feel about names to how our pooch must think about his name, too; just because he has a black spot over one eye, does that really mean he should forever be Bullseye?

The question to ponder here is how fair is it really to change your adopted pup’s name? Imagine if your parents had called you Alice for the first three years of your life, decided they didn’t like it, and then started calling you Emma. That would make for some strange happenings.

You’ve been conditioned to answer to your name, so has your dog. The six-year-old mutt you’re adopting might have been surrendered to the shelter, and the name he has might be the name he has had since he was a puppy.

Some people will argue that changing the dog’s name is unfair to the dog, but according to dog trainer Amber Burkhalter, changing your adopted pup’s name could be a good thing.

How Do You Teach a Dog a New Name

When you adopt a dog from the shelter, its living history is going to be ambiguous. It may or may not have had a love-filled life up to the point of adoption. It could be flea-ridden, and some form of flea preventative like Nexgard is needed to help nip that problem in the bud.

Unlike humans, dogs aren’t attached to a name; they’re attached to their owners. However, they can still have negative connotations attached to their name based on past experiences.

Dogs don’t understand words; they read your commands through your tone of voice and body language. If they have associated a negative connotation with their given name and flinch when it’s called, changing your new family member’s name will provide him with the fresh start he deserves.

To make the name change a smooth transition for the four-legged kiddo, Petfinder suggests you say the new name while feeding the pup treats. This will positively reinforce the name while teaching your dog to come to you when his name is called.

Another way to change his name is by using his current and new name together. For example, if the pup’s name is Cookie and you want to name him Rip, call him ‘CookieRip’ for a couple of weeks. After a couple of weeks, drop the ‘Cookie’ and just call him Rip.

Don’t worry. This won’t confuse your new dog. Because the former Cookie has already heard and responded to Rip, he will understand that Rip is associated with himself.

Ultimately, you can rename your adopted dog. If you do, make it extra special with a sweet new pet ID tag ceremony—it’ll be the christening of your new family!

Would you ever name a new dog after an old dog?

November 17, 2021
Gender Neutral Toddler Boy Room Paint Ideas

Is it time to redecorate your son’s bedroom? Depending on your son’s age decorating his space can sometimes be challenging. Here we discuss two toddler boy room paint ideas that we know he will love. These would even work well for a girl’s room since they are gender-neutral. Let’s get into it!

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Toy Story Paint Color Schemes for Boys’ Bedroom

The Toy Story room theme is a safe theme that most toddlers would enjoy. After all, it’s filled with toys which is the essence of most toddler bedrooms.

Also, it’s the perfect theme if your child hasn’t picked a favorite character quite yet.

All of the main characters are toys that could be in any child’s bedroom. They only have names if you introduce your child to the Toy Story movies.

Otherwise, it’s just a space guy and a cowboy.

We did a two-toned wall approach with a border in the middle. Lime green and dark blue are the two hues we used to make the orange accent pieces pop.

However, you could easily use shades of yellow (if this happens to be for a girl) or two shades of blue.

Just remember to put the darker color on the bottom and the lighter on the top to heighten the ceiling visually.

To add to this toddler boy room theme, Toy Story decor is used throughout the room. Bedding, stuffed animals, a rug, clock, artwork, a lamp, and decals complete the look.

The best part about this boy’s bedroom idea is that all the extra toys make it even better!

Creative Ideas for Painting Kids’ Room an Outer Space Theme

My son was introduced to the wonders of the universe during an outer space unit at school. Ever since, he was hooked on anything dealing with planets, the stars, and the sky.

When we moved to a new house, and it was time to paint over the Mario mural in his old room, we cried a little. That mural took months to do. It was so neat but very time-consuming.

Other the other hand, an outer space themed bedroom is super easy to accomplish.

We painted the ceiling a dark blue to complement the sky blue walls. To the ceiling, we attached glow-in-the-dark stars and hanging inflatable planets.

Planets aren’t anything without a sun. So, we found a sun light fixture and a remote control moon wall hanging to make the planetary system complete.

Again, we used orange as an accent color for his bed skirt, curtain tie backs, fabric bins, bean bag chair — you get the idea.

You can also add additional items that feature anything outer space like we did with the bedding, lamp, and curtain tie backs.

His bedroom had a little plant ledge, so there we added space-themed Lego creations. It was nice to have him create something for his personal space!

Both of these kids’ bedroom themes are very versatile and would work for nearly any child. Most importantly, they’ll have a space that’s truly theirs!

What toddler boy room themes do you like?

July 12, 2021
Does Homeowners Insurance Cover Damage From Pets?

They are cute, some are furry, and they’re all loyal. Pets are great to have around for company.

A recent survey by the American Pet Products Association showed that there are over 77.8 million pet dogs in the U.S. The figure representing pet cats is even higher.

The same survey showed that over 4.5 million people suffer dog bites annually. More than half of this figure represents children, and over 800,000 of these injuries are severe enough to need medical attention.

Owning a pet isn’t all a bed of roses. If you don’t have pet or homeowners insurance, the cost of any damage caused by your pet will come right out of your pocket.

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Does My Homeowner’s Insurance Cover Dog Bites?

Imagine that you’re having a great afternoon at home, and the doorbell rings. Your dog just bit your neighbors’ little 5-year-old girl, and she has been rushed to the hospital. Your neighbor wants to know how you’re going to handle this.

Injuries caused by pets can result in thousands of dollars in medical bills. If the other party decides to sue you, you could end up paying hundreds of thousands or even millions depending on the severity of the injuries. These fees aren’t easy to pay out of pocket. It helps to have something to fall back on.

Many homeowners are surprised to learn that their homeowner’s insurance covers pet damages. Liability coverage in your homeowner’s insurance policy is designed to protect you in case of damage or injuries to other parties that you can be held liable for.

However, it is crucial to be cautious here. This coverage is limited. Some homeowner’s policies don’t even include this type of coverage. It is, therefore, important to check on this when seeking homeowners insurance quotes.

Even if your insurance provider offers coverage for pet damages, it is essential to check the fine print. Various factors are considered by the insurance company when deciding whether they will provide compensation or not.

Keep the following in mind:

Exotic Pets

If your pet is considered exotic, you may not be covered for damage by the pet.

These pets may include pets that would not typically be sold out of a pet retail store. These may consist of tigers, monkeys, or other wild animals.

Damage to Your Own Dwellings or Property

Insurance companies typically do not cover dwellings or their contents when the primary cause of loss is a pet owned by the policyholder.

If your pet destroys your expensive sofa, door, or area rug, your insurance provider isn’t likely to compensate you. However, the insurance provider will offer coverage if your dog chews on your neighbor’s carpet or your cat scratches up their couch.

Dog’s With History of Aggressive Behavior

Dog bites are quite common. They can also be very expensive.

According to State Farm and The Insurance Information Institute, home insurance claims related to dog bites made up 4.7 percent of homeowners’ insurance costs in 2014.

These claims resulted in insurance providers paying over $530 million, with the average claim being slightly over $32,000.

It’s, therefore, understandable that insurance providers will be wary of insuring dogs they consider dangerous. These include poorly trained dogs or fall in the category of dangerous breeds, such as Rottweilers, Pit Bull Terriers, and German Shepherds.

Getting Dog-Friendly Homeowners Insurance

Some states will offer certain protections to cover damages caused by pets. However, it’s vital to ensure that damages by your pet are covered.

Consider taking a stand-alone liability policy. This may mean meeting specific requirements, such as installing a fence or cages.

So does homeowners insurance cover pet damages? The answer is maybe, but not always. Whether you’re planning to buy a homeowners insurance policy online or in person, prepare a list of questions to ask beforehand so you can cover every necessary angle.

Your pocket and peace of mind will thank you later on.

Can you name any dog-friendly homeowners insurance companies?

July 5, 2021
How Do You Prepare an Older Child for a New Sibling?

Expecting a new baby? Telling your older child your pregnant can be a daunting task. Say it the wrong way, and all hell can break loose but say it the right way, and they will be anxiously counting down the days.

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Sharing the Good News With Your Older Child

Tell your older child that you are going to have a new baby early in the pregnancy. You don’t want them to overhear the news accidentally and start the journey on the wrong note.

However, try not to talk too much about the baby because most children’s first reaction is jealousy. You don’t want them to think, “mom is having another baby, and she doesn’t need me anymore.”

The “baby” topic definitely shouldn’t be the only thing you are discussing at home. That can get real old quick.

Pregnancy Isn’t An Excuse

If mom is having a hard pregnancy and feels sick or is too tired to play with your older child, don’t ever say it’s because of the baby. That will quickly make your older child feel resentment towards the younger one even before it’s born.

If she feels sick, tell the child that mom is tired and needs some rest. This is also a good time for you to have some one-on-one time with your older child.

If mom usually does everything for your child, make the switch to daddy as fun as possible. You want the change to feel like a reward, not as a punishment.

Explain About Your Pregnancy And The New Baby

If your child asks where babies come from, be as brief as possible. If they are still young, say something like the baby is growing in mommy’s tummy, and when it is large enough, it will come out so you can hold it.

Do not explain more than you have been asked. Use simple words and do not go into any details. Do not lie.

So, in this sense – if the child is not asking any questions, don’t start explaining anything.

Your Older Child Hates The Idea Of A New Sibling

Sometimes children hate the idea of a new baby. They will tell you they don’t want it or even try to convince you that YOU don’t need it. This reaction is pretty normal and natural for young children.

If your child has an adverse reaction, tell them that they don’t have to love or take care of the baby. Be prepared to live through your own little piece of hell if the older child starts to act hostile.

Don’t be mad. Instead, try to understand that they are acting this way because they are scared and confused.

Can’t Wait for Their New Sibling

Children are very intuitive. Many will react positively to the good news to make you happy. And still, remember that no matter how happy the older child seems to be, they need to be reassured that mom and dad will always be mom and dad. No matter what.

Play with your child, go out together and only talk about the baby if they bring it up.

How did you tell your kids a new baby was on the way?

April 20, 2021
How to Be More Involved With the Baby as a Dad

Babies can be a bit daunting to even the best dad, so we have some great tips for helping you become more involved in the daily work of raising your children.

Being a parent is tough to adjust to, no matter if you are the mom or dad. With a lack of sleep, stinky diapers, and not communicating clearly with your baby, it can feel impossible.

Mothers tend to be more natural at adjusting when a baby arrives, but even they can struggle. These tips are not just for the father but also for moms who may feel a bit trapped when the baby first arrives.

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Purchase User-friendly Supplies

Finding a terrific diaper that will work for both mom and dad doesn’t have to be hard if you put some thought into it first.

Invest in some supplies that are gender-neutral.

For instance, this CiPU Diaper Bag is a great choice. It is definitely husband and father-friendly, being black. Yet it’s still great for moms, too.

This CiPU tote features everything you might want in a diaper bag. It is large yet extremely light-weight and can hold a ton of things in its 13 large compartments.

We all know babies come with a lot of gear and every outing seems like you are packing for a vacation.

With this CiPU bag, you don’t have to worry about space and keep it all organized without feeling like you are carrying a suitcase. It’s also great for any trips or adventures you may share.

There’s even a secret compartment to keep dirty diapers and clothes separated from everything else. That way, their stench doesn’t seep into other items.

The water repellent/quick-dry fabric seems to wipe easily, which is great when the inevitable leaky bottles and spills happen.

You can also look for strollers, blankets, and car seats that are gender-neutral for getting out and about with your new baby.

The key is to find things not covered in flowers, girlie prints, and oozing pink. Lord knows you’ll be lugging everything around when you go out as a family.

Handle Some Feedings And Nap Times

Most dads are great at handling nap time. This can be a chance for mom to take a nap or even to do some cleaning, reading, or relaxing.

Dads are great at holding the baby and rocking them or feeding them until they fall asleep.

Even if your baby is breastfed, mom can easily pump milk for you to feed your baby. This is a great easy to manage task that will help you bond with your child.

Babies Are Not As Breakable As You Think

One of the biggest struggles men have around a baby is the fear that they are too fragile for them to handle. While babies are fragile in many ways, don’t fear they will break by picking them up or holding them.

Be part of playtime.

When your baby is little, lie on the floor by them during tummy time and help them giggle over rattles and toys. When they are older, help them learn to crawl, walk, or pull themselves up.

Baby Wear

Babywearing is a fantastic thing that has been around for decades but has become more popular in recent years. A great baby carrier or sling is an amazing way to bond more with the baby.

With so many fun options out there for you to carry the baby hands-free, it is sure to be an excellent bonding experience.

Getting involved with your baby is easier now than ever before. With so many dad-friendly items out there for children, it is much easier today to become fully involved with the baby.

What are some of your favorite baby bonding activities?

March 30, 2021